An Open Letter to Fathers of Sons
As the father of a current freshman, in addition to having almost thirty years of experience on college campuses, I am keenly aware of the many transition issues that face all freshmen.
I am also aware of the challenges that our students face throughout college as they come of age in the modern world. Mixed messages about drinking, being independent, and not needing help can lead to risky situations. Being safe on the UW campus can easily be compromised by alcohol consumption and walking alone. Both female and male students can become victims of assault with this dangerous mix.
But speaking more as a father than as an associate dean, I want to encourage fathers to speak with their sons and emphasize that safety also applies to men. Although our sons may believe in their own invincibility, let’s advise them to be wise beyond their years when it comes to their own safety.
Students can take a few basic steps to do everything in their power not to be victimized:
- Don’t walk alone at night.
- Recognize that alcohol consumption increases risk.
- Lock doors and windows.
- Don’t leave personal items unattended.
Much of the crime we see around campus is a crime of opportunity. Removing that opportunity can prevent the crime.
The role of being a father to a son in college is often portrayed as, “We’re done now. You are on your own.” In fact, you should continue to play an active and involved role in your son’s life. Although it can differ from the role you played when your son was in middle school or high school, it’s equally important.
College is a complex time for young men — made more so by the times we live in. Your guidance as your son grows into the kind of man you want him to be is critical.
—Kevin Helmkamp, Associate Dean of Students